For many young adults, their parents seem like strangers. But how do you deal with it when, after studying, the choice of words, but also the values ??and the view of the world are completely different than with your parents? When they feel offended by the child's life choices? How do you deal with it when your father votes for AfD? Or when you consider yourself German but your mother feels Turkish? The FAZ journalist Leonie Feuerbach traces individual stories, asks those affected how the family alienation came about and how they deal with this shameful topic. Whether it's political attitudes, patchwork constellations or differences in faith - it is painful when you realize that you are different from your parents. Because the relationship with your own parents is a very special one. We don't choose them, we are born into them. Ending this relationship by breaking off contact is only an option for very few. For one thing, many adult children may no longer like their parents, but they still love them. And on the other hand, they feel that the bond that has existed since birth will not shake them off even if the relationship breaks off. With the help of experts, the author sheds light on the background to family alienation and shows how good relationships are also possible among "strangers" in the family.